“Relational structures” is one of our four cornerstones in building the kingdom of God. Jesus personifies and demonstrates that reaching the world with the Gospel and expanding His Father’s soveriegn rule in every part of the world started with relationships. I believe it will end there also.
A familial model of ministry starts with placing value on the person, while a military model begins with the making the person a tool to serve the larger army’s purpose. A relational structure embraces the person and acknowleges growth toward a commonly desired achievment while the military structure only rewards the person if they reach the objective satisfactorily.
More could be contrasted on the two models. I would offer that we must love people and use things; not love things and use people. Our coaching structure will reflect one of these two approaches, which is yours?